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 11/16/2011 1:59 AM
 

 

1.              Appendix B – Oh What a Bastard I am

 

Gentlemen. Women hurl abuse at me all the time. It’s so standard now that it has just become ‘noise’ like the traffic going past. Not worth taking any notice of. But there is something that I would like to draw your attention to.

 

In May 2007 I asked Jennifer, as my then wife, who had told me she was ‘indifferent’ to being married to me in February 2007, to take a class that had helped her twice before. It was called ‘The Landmark Forum’. I, as usual, paid for the flights, accommodation etc since I was the only one working.

 

I asked her to attend the Landmark Forum again with a view of generating a breakthrough in her relationship with me.  She wrote the following letter to me. I have copied it exactly as written, spelling mistakes and all. My comments are below the full version of the letter.

 

You men should take a close look at this. I have HUNDREDS of ‘love letters’ from Jennifer professing her undying love. Sure. Undying until committing perjury in her court submissions, stealing money, kidnapping my children. THAT kind of ‘undying love’ I can do without thank you very much.

 

You men want to take real close notice that NO OTHER WOMEN condemn this sort of behaviour. NONE OF THEM. And once you figure THAT out then you will realise just how little women think of men now. You are nothing but slaves to be used. You would do well not to forget that.

 

Many women have said to me “I would like to see your exs side of the story”. So I give them this and then I tell them that for ‘bad’ they can make up anything they like because Jennifer accused me of adultery, domestic violence, abandoning my children and being an all round bad father.

 

I tell women “make up your worst and assume she said it” but note that she is also a liar or epic proportions. After all. A woman who sends a note like this and then claims the man is a bad husband inside 6 months? What sort of credibility do such claims have? None at all.

 

So. Here it is for your reading pleasure. This is just two months before she was talking to a divorce lawyer and three months before stealing EUR18,000 from our company and 6 months before submitting allegations I was a ‘bad father and husband’ who has ‘abandoned’ his family.

 

Read this young man. You will learn something. You will learn that your wife professing ‘undying love’ for you lasts until she calls her lawyer. And if you don’t learn that lesson from me? They you deserve to learn it from a greedy, vindictive, cruel and callous wife.

 

Oh how I must have been such a bastard. ;-)

 


 

 

Dearest Peter,

 

As you know I came to the forum to have a breakthrough in my relationship

with you. As people have gotten up to speak I have seen aspects of my way of

being reflected in their stories. As I listened the possibility has dawned

on me that while I have complained of being bullied by you I have actually

been the bully. I have been so stubborn as to make our marriage unworkable.

I have resisted nearly everything you suggested, all to show you that you

are not the boss of me. I guess after all these years and divorce on the

table it should be pretty clear to both of us that that's the case.

 

The possibility I have invented for myself and my life is the possibility of

head over heels love, passionate, compassionate, generous and unstoppable. I

have also taken on the possibility of abundance. Years ago you asked me to

create a relationship and invite you to be enrolled in it. Last night I

finally did that. I don't blame you for being cynical about that invitation.

A less persistant man would have divorced me years ago.

 

You are the Samson that holds up the roof of the wortld over me and our

family. I have been Delialh pretending to love you while undermining your

strength. I am so sorry for that. I realise that for us to have the

relationship of my possibility I will have to give up making you wrong. I am

committed to having this possibility in my life. I will have head-over-heels

love with someone and you are my first choice.

 

I know you feel the relationship with our children is secondary and I have

always made you wrong for that. I want our relationship to be complete

freeing you to be a father to them. Will you be their father? No amount of

mother love can compensate them for the loss of you. I  am also standing in

the possibility of our children attending the teen forum. I see how I have

enrolled them in my stories about you to their detriment. I want them to

have the loving relationship with you I know is possible.

 

Now I have created a possibility for my life do you think it is one I might

enroll you in? I invite you to share a life with me more wonderful than we

could ever have apart.

 

My offer to you is nothing less than myself, utterly, totally and

completely,

 

With all my love Jenni

 

 


 

 

My comments about this letter are as follows:

 

As I listened the possibility has dawned

on me that while I have complained of being bullied by you I have actually

been the bully. I have been so stubborn as to make our marriage unworkable.

 

Yes. In our household, the ‘bully’ was Jennifer. Every step of the way. She bullied me, she bullied the children, she bullied her parents. She bullied everyone. In many cases oh so nicely so as the person might not notice it, but Jennifer has been nothing but a ‘bully’ all her married life.  She complained of being ‘bullied’ at school. I now do not believe that story one little bit. Perhaps some of the other girls ‘pushed back’. That would be more believable.

 

“A less persistant man would have divorced me years ago.”

 

Yes. I loved Jennifer with all my heart and soul and I prayed she would regain her faith and be the wife she vowed to be on her wedding day.  Even my Family Law Solicitor in Sydney (female) told me I was stupid not to divorce this woman years previously. Apparently loving your wife and begging her to be a decent human being and standing loyally by her despite her abuse to give her every chance to take up her religion again and be a decent human being is called “stupid” in our society by women. You men should NOT forget this.

 

“You are the Samson that holds up the roof of the wortld over me and our

family. I have been Delialh pretending to love you while undermining your

strength. I am so sorry for that.”

 

Notice that Jennifer admits to undermining my strength. Basically, all that I tried to do and contribute to my family was undermined by Jennifer while she, in her own words “pretended to love me”.

 

Jennifer is sorry. Really? When she betrayed me within a few months? You can make up your own mind if that is the action of a ‘sorry’ person.

 

“I know you feel the relationship with our children is secondary and I have

always made you wrong for that. I want our relationship to be complete

freeing you to be a father to them.”

 

Yet inside 6 months she is alleging I am an unfit father who has abandoned them and is demanding sole custody and sole discretion of access to my former children. That sure sounds like ‘freeing’ to me.  

 

I could not make this shit up.

 

“No amount of mother love can compensate them for the loss of you.”

 

Yet inside 6 months she is denying me access to my former children in an effort to line her own pockets with money she has stolen from the family through blatantly lying to me. Ok. That sounds like good ‘mothering’ to me. NOT!

 

“My offer to you is nothing less than myself, utterly, totally and

Completely”

 

Sounds like a great offer. But she neglects to mention that she retains the right to be dishonest and demands the ability to steal money from the family finances. Her offer was turned down on the basis that if she was offering herself she needed to get a job and help. Which she refused to do.

 

As you can see from this letter Jennifer’s lies are laid bare. And yes, they really are that disgusting. However the more important lesson for YOU young man is that virtually ALL OTHER WOMEN take the view that this kind of attitude is PERFECTLY OK.

 

THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT LESSON TO LEARN FROM THIS LETTER.

 

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